Think, Speak, and Take Informed Initiative for Yourself

We live in a time where the rest of the world, person by person, is attempting to dictate what is “right” and “wrong.” In that sense, we are individually liable to forget our humanities. We have discussed before how being good to oneself enables for the ability to be good to others, and that is true; however, thinking for yourself has never been more critical.

What makes the most significant impact, in this regard, is learning to trust your instincts and mind. While constructive criticism and solid arguments for a different perspective are beneficial, giving into peer pressure and losing self-confidence is not. This distinction is critically important – not all input is unhealthy or negative but rather quite the opposite. Recognizing this can contribute to a more fulfilling, positive mindset that is less sensitive to the noise of the world around you.

Today, let us highlight the need for thinking, speaking, and therefore living for ourselves by focusing on the fundamentals of doing so, continuing from our previous article on societal fears.


If you cannot trust your own insights based on firsthand experiences or otherwise, it is easier to accept those of someone else as scripture. We see this everywhere in politics, business and otherwise; learning to believe in what you do know is different than pretending you know something. One should never underestimate their instincts; they will always attempt to steer you in the right direction if well-informed. The older or more distressed we get, the harder it is to accept something. This is especially true in chaotic upbringings where a sense of self-trust and self-assurance has not been effectively established, meaning it is all-the-more important that the mind is trained to enable these functions. The longer we wait, the greater the challenge.


Many of us know a few individuals who are comfortable with settling, uncomfortable with making significant changes and often growing complacent with their current circumstances. There is a danger in growing too comfortable; believing in yourself means knowing when it is time to hit the brakes or turn a corner. We spend so much time worrying about others, especially lately, that it is easy to “lose the plot,” so to speak. Following the leader is hardly the way to live; feeling comfortable in your own skin, making informed decisions that can be trusted, reducing the number of stress triggers, and interacting more with individuals who respect and value you are all essential steps to take in this regard. This, therefore, means reducing the damage that those with negative mindsets or perspectives can inflict, achieved by not letting them manipulate your own.


You have tremendous value and something to contribute. All of us do. If there is something unfolding in one’s life that is putting their integrity, self-confidence or even safety at risk, there is a need to respond in a manner that does the opposite of enabling the negative circumstances to continue. To wait is to disrespect the self; if it is just to keep a job, perhaps it is time to find support and enable growth where it matters for you. If it is to maintain a toxic relationship out of guilt or fear, know that you deserve better and can make up your own mind. If it is to worry about not making someone uncomfortable or causing a complication, know that we cannot always “perform miracles.” Being respectful is to do one’s best every day to maintain kindness and a considerate attitude, all while not being afraid to make critical, sensible decisions.


How do you speak to people? Do you notice that you come across as sharp or impatient? Do not feel bad; it happens to the best of us, and “best” is a relative term. The key to improving ourselves is to accept when we can do better; it makes for much less of an uphill battle. As discussed in our prior articles, developing an optimistic and positive mindset is critical to improving attitude and perspective, which leads to increased self-awareness. At the same time, this can equate to reduced negative reactivity to differing opinions, insults, and other things we often do not want to hear in everyday life.


You deserve to call the shots in your life, especially if your intentions are pure and the decisions you make are informed. This means not letting fear or paranoia take hold – an important thing to bear in mind during these tumultuous times. If you need to throttle back to look after your mental and physical health, only you will know whether it is the right thing to do; nobody else should do the talking. If you are feeling shoehorned into an impossible situation or not adequately valued, it is up to you to take appropriate next steps.

Understanding one’s potential, where there’s room to grow and whether we are enabled to do so are the core fundamentals of a healthier mindset. By learning to think and speak from a place of knowledge and self-confidence, we take the reins and veer into an ideal direction in life. If you need assistance in bringing out your voice or establishing a link with your instincts, our therapists are happy to help you do so in a supportive, welcoming environment. Contact us today to get started.