Finding and Embracing Your Voice

Finding and valuing your own voice does not equate to silencing others or not valuing their input, but rather to trusting your own mind instead of letting others decide for you. Training your mind in this manner will enable you to better develop social skills, establish healthy relationships with others, and genuinely become happier in the long run. This does not mean that everything will always go according to plan; it represents your having the ability to dust yourself off more quickly and keep moving forward.

Being Good to Yourself

The first step towards developing your own voice is learning to be honest with yourself, which can mean accepting things that you may not want to agree with. This can be a difficult task to accomplish, especially if you have built a life based around meeting the needs of others, as there may be aspects that are not necessarily beneficial to your wellness. For instance, perhaps you have been making career sacrifices purely for the sake of financial security and do not want to put a spouse at risk by daring to try something new. Or, maybe you have put off having children in order to keep a partner happy.

In the end, if you are not happy, it often means that you are not being honest with yourself about what you want in life. Empowering oneself to achieve their dreams is an ideal way to restore self-assurance and make serious progress on those life goals.

Trusting, Believing and Being Self-Confident

Many individuals are introverts, and that’s perfectly okay! However, there are individuals out there who are effectively silenced by someone special or an organization that they are involved with. We see this often in the bottom rung of massive corporations, as well as in abusive and/or toxic relationships. Perhaps someone has great ideas that could prove beneficial if considered, but they fall on deaf ears or do not align with what others want to hear. Or, maybe they are in a relationship where, no matter what they attempt, they cannot obtain the trust of a significant other and feel utterly helpless. Such circumstances sound almost draconian in nature, but they are incredibly common; it’s why we see so many individuals suffering from depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues – these problems are not created out of thin air.

Our advice is to take good care of your own mental health through boosting self-confidence in any way possible, so long as it does not hurt others. Focus more on individuals who inspire you to do your best but also support you more than when it is simply convenient to do so – this applies to all types of relationships. However, be sure to not develop a dependency on that support. Or, try to develop new skills on your own. As for self-confidence in relationships, tackling odd jobs and saving responsibly are great ways to learn to trust in yourself. 

Of course, we still need to carefully straddle the line between determination and arrogance; over time, you will more readily accept when having made a mistake, trusting that you can find and implement a more appropriate and effective solution. This is essential to learning to not depend or rely on others. Collaboration and teamwork are critical to any healthy relationship, so bear in mind that we are referring more to the aspect of whether you rely on others as crutches. In all honesty, you should not and do not need to. Consider how far you have come through your own initiative and be proud of the progress made!

Make Your Contributions Matter

This time of year can be difficult for those in stressful or toxic relationships. During such a time, not only is finding your voice important but so is contributing in a way that helps you feel involved and better connected with others. Whether this involves taking charge, making bold new changes or simply diving in and sharing your ideas more readily depends on the circumstances at hand. However, consider all the above and do not doubt that you can make helpful contributions – all it requires is having the necessary knowledge and sharing it.

There are many ways to find and make your voice heard – so many that we could not possibly list them all here. However, the key takeaway from this article is to trust that you matter, your contributions are valid if they are informed, and you are valued. If you need assistance with helping to discover your own self, we would be happy to help. Contact us today to get in touch with an experienced therapist who can lend a hand.