Reflecting in nature

In today’s world, there is a fixation on what we “do.” When approached at a social gathering, the first you’re ever asked is “what do you do for a living?” Your child walks in the door, and you ask her “what did you do today?” Yet as human beings, life is far more rewarding and whole when we focus on being, not only doing. In fact, by reframing the issue and using doing as a method of satisfying and enhancing being, we find more fulfillment in life.

Let It Be

The very nature of doing is an attempt to change a situation, to push forward, compete, and focus on the future. But this is not always optimal. Sometimes the best and most fulfilling course of action is to just let it be. Growth can be spurred by action, but it can also be stunted if you’re always spinning your wheels trying to change something or strive ahead instead of just being with the moment. If you have difficulty with this new perception, schedule an appointment with your Ottawa therapist for methods of connecting with the present moment and being true to yourself.

Seeing, Not Seeking

When were are always looking forward toward the next great goal, we often fail to see the beauty and the meaning of the present. Only in retrospect do we look back and regret not having lived in the moment. Instead of seeking bigger, better, and bolder things in life, focus your attention on seeing what is around you and inside of you at this very moment in time. See your inner strength and vitality. See the beauty of a rainbow following a rainstorm. See the power of the shared human connection. There is no doing when you focus only on being and absorbing these moments.

Process Oriented, Not Goal Oriented

Every single goal in life is the culmination of a process, yet we often get sidetracked focusing only on the end result. Instead of preoccupying yourself with all you must do to reach the end goal, orient yourself to appreciate the process. Clear your mind and focus on the physical and emotional sensations about the journey to reach your destination.
In fact, as Lao-tzu said, “The way to do is to be.” (in The Way of Life According to Laotzu)

We must find balance in all things in life. Clearly there is a role for “doing” in our lives, and we can use actions to become who we want to be. But we must also learn when it is more appropriate to let a situation or emotion just “be” instead of trying to change it with our actions or thinking.